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This blog is focusing on the married group of couples who there is truly barely to no sexual intimacy.
Thus, quality is lacking because quantity is lacking.
My desire for you is to connect in a sexually intimate way that pleases both of you in quantity and in quality. The goal is to find a healthy sexual balance of quantity and quality that fits for both the husband and the wife.
With that in mind, today’s blog is addressing the one specific topic which is to take action if there’s no sexual intimacy.
I do have some sexual desire, but not as much as him. So we rarely talk about our lack of sexual intimacy. Several months pass at a time and maybe we’ll have sexual intimacy once, to then go several more months perhaps a year or longer before we will be intimate again. He either: a) goes for massages with a “happy ending”, b) has had, is having, or is considering having an affair, c) will eventually leave the marriage once the kids are older, or d) lives sexually unfulfilled and masturbates (which leaves him unfulfilled), despite this he remains.
I do love him, I want to remain married to him, but I wish he would leave me alone sexually. But on occasion he does bring our lack of sexual intimacy up in conversation still. The lack of sexual fulfillment, the lack of sexual intimacy, actual sexual deprivation is a real thing.
Outcome For Scenario B: Wife lives an existence in marriage where she is sexually deprived.
If there truly is barely to no sexual intimacy in your marriage, this is not something to feel guilty about wanting. My wife has a very hard time even engaging in a conversation about sex. Other spiritual women have shared with her, but she doesn’t improve. It’s not about the sex, it’s about intimacy, It think. Reply Hi Tom, A sexually growing relationship is ultimately what I have discovered in my work with couples, is what makes it satisfying. When the sexual relationship remains the same, the same style, the same pattern for years that’s when it becomes unsatisfying.
Continue to keep the lines of communication with your spouse open and figure out as a marital team what can be done about this particular challenge. If I try to say anything to improve our sex life she immediately becomes defensive and says “Maybe you should find somebody who has nothing better to do.” Which breaks my heart because I would never want to do that to her. I’m a senior minister in a growing church thats depending on my integrity and leadership. Haven’t cheated, but I’m baffled that men who do get a bad wrap, when the faithful, bill paying, cooking father gets frustration. You are certainly doing the right thing by communicating with her in an honest way that you are longing for more.
As the years have progressed, he does leave me alone now . Without sexual intimacy in marriage, the person feels unloved, unwanted.
For those living a similar existence to case scenario A, consider what action to take, both husband and wife to attend to this lack of sexual marital intimacy.
The fact is, married women too experience sexual deprivation.